July 12, 2006 | SHE-BLOG
I'm lame.
How does the lameness manifest itself? I'm so glad you didn't ask!
I would like to think that I have a fair amount of friends in this here online community. People who also have blogs, people who take photos and comment on flickr, and people who think my shoe addiction is completely normal. The crazy thing is, some of these people actually live right here! Locally!
I would love nothing more than to be all personable and out-going and say, "Hey! We should go get a drink!" or "We should go on a photo walk!" or "We should go shoe shopping!" But I don't. Becasue what if I ran out of questions to ask? What if we had nothing to say to each other after 20 minutes? What if we just walked along in silence? Too many what if's for my brain to bear. So I go along thinking "it would be cool to hang out with that person!", but lamely decide that it's much safer to type away on my computer for hours at a time and not put myself in stuations where I might have to converse in person with another human.
LAME.
Some of this manifested itself at BlogHer last year. I spent all day in rooms full of women who have stuff in common with me. Women who blog, craft, take photos, and shoe shop. But all I did was watch from the sidelines. I walked right by Tracey at one point, and was too wrapped up in my own lameness to stop and say hi. This isn't to say that I didn't talk to anyone, because I did! I met some really nice people! And it was totally fine! But I left wishing I had put myself out there a little bit more.
So I'm going to try again this year. I'm attending the day two festivities at BlogHer '06, and I'll most likely be at the cocktail parties, too. I'll be armed with cards and buttons to hand out, which I'm hoping will encourage me to actually talk to a few people. So if I don't get to you first, please say hi. It would make me happy, and hey, free button!
1. I get all manner of compliments on my ugly green chair pin. No one-so-far- has been familiar with your blog, but they love the pin!
2. Meeting new people as an adult is sometimes hard.
3. I live really close to the where you get your hair cut, if you'd ever like to get together let me know.
I think its very normal to feel this way and I hate to say I'm a little relieved to see such a cool sounding person as you would feel this way. I know when I think about meeting any of my bloggy friends I tense up because I think they won't like me in real life???? Good luck at Blogher and I hope you have a neat time.
Thanks for the comments, ladies! I'm feeling slightly less lame now. :)
Ms. Jen, I'm really glad you put together that "birds of a feather" photoblog group last year, otherwise I wouldn't have met nearly as many people. I'm looking forward to your session this year!
Allyson, next time I end up in NY, we are so going to get a cider.
Tracey, I will definitely introduce myself this year. (And perhaps I'll bring some protective head gear, in case you get to me first...)
Marielle, I think shoe shopping AND some fabric shopping are in order. :)
I'm lame that way too. And since I really enjoy watching things from the sidelines, I don't usually feel too badly about it - and neither should you.
But we *are* going shoe shopping next time I head north - you know that, don't you :)
well you'd best introduce yourself this year, missy, or i may have to track you down and bludgeon you with my laptop. for reals.
It's funny...you talking about how LAME you are, because from my perspective (as someone who has never met you), you are very far from lame.
I know that you have great taste in music, take amazing photographs, and have interesting things to say.
If you assume that everyone who has never met you but reads this blog is going into meeting you with that very same impression, what have you got to fear?
We are all lame. Trust me. :)
aw, it's going to be great. Let it be noted that I am very very jealous.
mm, cocktails :)
Unfortunately, I'm on the wrong coast for BlogHer... But if you lived in NYC, I'd invite to the pub to talk photos and crafts over a cider :)
Although I will not be at blogher I vouch for the absolute and utter cuteness of said buttons.
It is funny how people remember the same situation from different perspectives.
I remember meeting you early in the day, talking about photography, you being friendly when I saw you over the course of the day, and have had your blog on my feed reader since.
Looking forward to hanging out again.
;o)